Low Self Esteem | 7 Everyday Things Destroying Your Self-Esteem

Take a second to value everything you have for a moment. Look around you. Look at yourself.

What do you feel? How do you feel about yourself?

Listen to your answer… out of everything you took in during this moment.

Do you ever think about how your own self-esteem impacts your view?

Having low self-esteem is nothing to be ashamed of or upset about.

It’s natural. And yea, it sucks.

But the thing about esteem… it can be changed.

You may not recognize every single reason why you’re destroying your self-worth.

Sometimes it’s because they have been ingrained in your everyday life for so long, you wouldn’t think to see them as a threat.

Sometimes taking a step back from the things you perceive to be normal can help you see them for what they really are, a detriment to your self-worth.

We’ll take a look at the effects of low self-esteem before discussing 7 everyday things that you may not realize are probably harming your self-esteem.

The Effects of Low Self-Esteem

the effects of low self esteem

Having low self-esteem can twist your entire being into a source of negative thoughts and attitudes.

You lose sight of your own interests. You stop caring about yourself.

Your needs are put aside to focus on everyone else’s. You begin to care too much about what other people think.

Or, you have absolutely no interest in what they think because you’re taking out your frustrations passive-aggressively.

You try to please everyone else because you’re desperate for an ounce of approval because you don’t give it to yourself.

Your worth depends completely on how you think people feel about you.

If you’re never good enough for yourself, then why would you expect others to see you that way?

More often than not, low self-esteem drives people into finding “easy” distractions from their problems.

They quickly fall into habits and routines that sacrifice the positive parts of themselves without even realizing it.

Self-empowerment is affected by internal factors just as much, if not more so, than external factors.

The way that other people talk to you actually holds nowhere near the amount of power than the way you talk to yourself.

Of course, when you’re the one receiving the short end of the stick, it hurts.

But, no matter what other people say or do to you, your self-esteem takes the biggest blow when you hurt yourself.

It doesn’t even have to be physical, it can be entirely mental. It happens to the best of us and it truly is tragic.

Sometimes you need to reach out for help and DON’T EVER let anyone shame you for doing so.

But, other people aren’t always going to be there. So let’s bring attention to 7 everyday things that may be hurting your self-esteem that you may not even realize.

7 Things Destroying Your Self-Esteem

First and Foremost: I would like to ask you to reach out for professional help if you are struggling with depression.

There are options for you to choose from if you are suffering inside.

More people reach out for help than you may think, and you shouldn’t think that your feelings are any less important than anyone else’s. You are important.

Even if you may think you’re not an essential part of someone’s life right now, you might be overlooking how important you are to someone right now, or how important you will be to someone in the future!

Now to look at 7 things destroying your self-esteem.

1. Dopamine Overdosing

dopamine overdosing

Dopamine overdosing is the most common and impactful item on this list.

It can be directly applied to the next 6 items either as the cause or continuation of your low self-esteem problems.

It’s able to affect us so subtly and regularly because it’s been ingrained in our daily lives. You’ve probably never even considered exactly how much it affects you.

We crave the sensations that dopamine gives us when it is released in our brains.

The chemical is responsible for our feelings of pleasure and reward. It drives our motivations, our thought processes, and our overall mood.

We seek it out because it is one of the best “feel good” chemicals we can naturally experience.

Despite it being organically released when we accomplish a goal or experience something pleasant, it is constantly force-fed to us by the world around us.

People regularly induce the easy release of dopamine with triggers like social media, video games, gambling, caffeine, drugs, alcohol, pornography, television, music, gossip, etc.

The list is endless.

We have become so accustomed to using these sources that we don’t realize how addicted we’ve become.

And, just like any addiction, a tolerance eventually builds.

We rely on these external sources to increase dopamine levels.

We persistently consume them to satisfy our cravings until we burn out and crash.

Following the crash, we subconsciously experience a wave of depression.

Our minds have spent so much time away from reality and being in the present moment, it causes a shock to our system.

Our self-esteem crumbles because, deep down, we haven’t earned a true dopamine rush.

We’ve done nothing but consume instead of producing or being active.

By consuming so much so easily, our depleted nervous system can not provide us with good feelings naturally for a period of time after our overdose.

Try taking a break from it all with a dopamine detox to improve your overall mood and self-esteem.

Remove yourself from consuming things like social media, alcohol, drugs, media, music, porn, etc.

Center yourself in the present moment. Soon you will find solace in the world around you being absent of cheap dopamine sources.

Without being occupied with so many distractions, you’ll find it easier to focus on self-improvement.

You’ll have more time to complete tasks.

And you’ll feel a sense of clarity when concentrating on the things that matter most in life.

Your low self-esteem will be left behind with the rest of your addictions.

2. Comparing Yourself to Others

comparing yourself to others

Always keep this in mind: Companies profit off your insecurities, and they depend on your low self-esteem.

You are fooled into comparing yourself to the unrealistic standards of others.

Social media channels like Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter mainline a constant feeling of insecurity in the average user.

It’s natural for you to admire other people’s lifestyles and achievements.

But all too often I bet it causes you to set overinflated goals and standards to achieve.

And, when if you can’t meet those goals, you tell yourself you’re not good enough to have what they have.

Whether it be looks, wealth, or whatever your eye beholds.

You fabricate reasons to justify a false sense of inferiority to others.

This self-installed negativity drops your self-esteem like a microphone at a rap battle between you and yourself, and you just got booed off the stage by the lies you tell yourself.

Instead of comparing yourself to others, focus on the things within your control that you can change.

And then put forth the effort to making those changes.

It’s easier to make the progress towards what you want than you think.

Instead of asking yourself why can’t you be like them, ask what you can do for yourself to improve your own life.

Eventually, you’ll be so content with yourself, you wouldn’t trade who you are for what they are at all!

3. Being too Critical of Yourself

being too critical on yourself

Along with comparing yourself to others, you need to stop comparing yourself to “the perfect version” of yourself.

Stop criticizing your efforts towards self-improvement.

Sure it’s beneficial to aspire to something greater, but never giving yourself validation is self-abuse. It’s easy to scrutinize everything about yourself.

If you feel unimpressed by your own goals and actions, then how the heck are you ever going to see the progress you make?

Take a step back now and then and realize you might be too harsh with your self-judgment.

If you consider yourself a perfectionist, then you probably elevate those thoughts to the point of self-harassment.

Your progress will never be perfect, but it will always be an improvement.

Accept the fact that the progress you make is, potentially, at least good enough.

Or it’s extraordinary and you just can’t see it.

Don’t exchange self-esteem for self-destruction. When you only perceive yourself in a negative light, you’re blind to the success you achieve.

If you criticize yourself for not even starting something… well, you know how easy it is to fix that problem.

Believe in yourself.

Not everything you are or what you do is perfect, but be proud of yourself for taking the time to work for it.

4. Living in Toxicity

When you were looking around yourself at the start of this blog, did you like what you saw?

Did you have a quick thought about cleaning?

Organizing? Purging?

Did you feel the need to relocate?

Whether it be at home, work, or even at a friend’s house, your environment is an incubation chamber for low self-esteem issues.

The disorganization of your living space disrupts your train of thought and mental stability.

Clean your living space to experience a subconscious feeling of clarity and order.

Once those are in line not only will you be more comfortable in your area but you will have an easier time working on your low self-esteem.

5. Associating with Toxicity

living near toxicity

You may consider the people you hang out with to be friends, but misjudging someone’s character makes you an easy victim of exploitation.

Reevaluate your social circles to see who your real friends are.

Weed out the people who take advantage of you to quickly reduce the number of snakes who impact your esteem in a harmful way.

I know people don’t like to be alone or they find it difficult cutting ties with friends they’ve known for a long time.

But, it’s like ripping off a bandaid. You’ll find out that not having a steady supply of negativity blasted at you, by a so-called “friend”, is far better than keeping them around because you’re too self-conscious about “hurting their feelings."

And if you feel trapped and threatened by that person, reach out for personal help.

Your health and safety are much more important than your social confidence.

6. Retaining Assertion

retaining assertion

Running off of toxic people and environments, if you’re not asserting yourself and speaking your mind, you’re not doing anything to stop your self-esteem from coming under their thumb.

This by no means is telling you to turn into a bully. It’s to help you understand that expressing yourself changes the way people interact with you in a positive way.

When you have an assertive attitude, you express your abilities in leadership and decision-making.

It’s a social power that leads people to naturally start listening to you.

Not only is assertion a great tool to boosting your social self-esteem, but it reduces internal conflict.

When you’re vocal about your thoughts and opinions it gives you the chance to hear yourself say what you are feeling.

There is a huge difference between thinking about something and hearing it out loud.

It gives you the opportunity to question your confidence and belief in what you are feeling or how strongly you feel about what you say.

This helps reaffirm your true feelings about important ideas and separates the matters you internally struggle with.

7. The Sacrifice of Self

man being put down with low self esteem

One of the most common characteristics of low self-esteem is sacrificing your happiness for the approval of others.

Since your brain is starved of the rewards you should be giving yourself, it tricks you into thinking you need the approval of others.

This tendency leads to a decline in personal care, establishing independence, and self-belief.

It’s easy to defend your actions as being selfless or generous, but consider the underlying truth behind the intentions.

You want to make people happy because you don’t know how to make yourself happy.

The addition of feeling like “a nice guy” is a title you can extort when avoiding dealing with your low self-esteem issues.

Stop trying to impress other people with what you can offer them.

You wind up losing more than your time and finances when you do.

Focus on improving yourself first before trying to improve the happiness of others.

You will feel a lot more accomplished and independent when you take steps towards investing in your future self first.

Take the time to focus on your hygiene, your daily routines, your finances, your health (mentally and physically), etc.

You’ll occupy so much of your time improving yourself that by the time you revisit those people you were desperately trying to impress, they will be impressed by your level of success and feel comfortable to be around you again.

Your New Everyday Life

woman with tons of self esteem

Step number one is to always identify the problem.

If you were never able to recognize these causes beforehand, you were subconsciously living in an incubation unit for low self-esteem issues.

But if you had a self-revelation regarding an item on this list, then you’re able to recognize that you need to change the issue.

It takes a little bit of work but you can become the more confident version of yourself that you always wanted to be!

Change something now can be scary, but a future where you never decided to change yourself is bleak.

You know that you can do it. I know that you can do it.

Believe in yourself to make the change and you’ll kiss your low self-esteem goodbye for good!


Related Posts

Summer Hair Care | 8 Ways To Prevent Summer Hair Damage

Sun’s out, Guns out! It’s the summertime and the heat is in full swing! I know you gotta be soaki...

Confidence Boosters | 13 Ways to Boost Your Confidence Today

Finding confidence boosters can be hard but this post gives you tons of self confidence tips to i...

The Ultimate Guide To Hair Loss

25 Pages of Education

  • Low Self Esteem | 7 Everyday Things Destroying Your Self-Esteem

    View Post

    Summer Hair Care | 8 Ways To Prevent Summer Hair Damage

    View Post

    Confidence Boosters | 13 Ways to Boost Your Confidence Today

    View Post
  • Confidence Boosters | 13 Ways to Boost Your Confidence Today

    View Post

    Summer Hair Care | 8 Ways To Prevent Summer Hair Damage

    View Post

    Low Self Esteem | 7 Everyday Things Destroying Your Self-Esteem

    View Post
Close (esc)

Download The Ultimate Guide To Hair Loss.

Learn The Science Behind Hair Loss, How To Prevent It And What Can Be Done To Grow Thicker, Fuller & Healthier Hair.

ultimate guide to hairloss

We will only send you awesome stuff

privacy policy
Close (esc)

privacy policy

PRIVACY POLICY Effective date: September 18, 2019 Hair Restoration Laboratories, LLC ("us", "we", or "our") operates the website (hereinafter referred to as the "Service"). This page informs you of our policies regarding the collection, use and disclosure of personal data when you use our Service and the choices you have associated with that data. We use your data to provide and improve the Service. By using the Service, you agree to the collection and use of information in accordance with this policy. Unless otherwise defined in this Privacy Policy, the terms used in this Privacy Policy have the same meanings as in our Terms and Conditions, accessible from DEFINITIONS Service Service is the website operated by Hair Restoration Laboratories, LLC Personal Data Personal Data means data about a living individual who can be identified from those data (or from those and other information either in our possession or likely to come into our possession). Usage Data Usage Data is data collected automatically either generated by the use of the Service or from the Service infrastructure itself (for example, the duration of a page visit). Cookies Cookies are small files stored on your device (computer or mobile device). Data Controller Data Controller means the natural or legal person who (either alone or jointly or in common with other persons) determines the purposes for which and the manner in which any personal information are, or are to be, processed. For the purpose of this Privacy Policy, we are a Data Controller of your Personal Data. Data Processors (or Service Providers) Data Processor (or Service Provider) means any natural or legal person who processes the data on behalf of the Data Controller. We may use the services of various Service Providers in order to process your data more effectively. Data Subject (or User) Data Subject is any living individual who is using our Service and is the subject of Personal Data. INFORMATION COLLECTION AND USE We collect several different types of information for various purposes to provide and improve our Service to you. TYPES OF DATA COLLECTED PERSONAL DATA While using our Service, we may ask you to provide us with certain personally identifiable information that can be used to contact or identify you ("Personal Data"). Personally identifiable information may include, but is not limited to: Email address First name and last name Phone number Address, State, Province, ZIP/Postal code, City Cookies and Usage Data We may use your Personal Data to contact you with newsletters, marketing or promotional materials and other information that may be of interest to you. You may opt out of receiving any, or all, of these communications from us by following the unsubscribe link or the instructions provided in any email we send. USAGE DATA We may also collect information on how the Service is accessed and used ("Usage Data"). This Usage Data may include information such as your computer's Internet Protocol address (e.g. IP address), browser type, browser version, the pages of our Service that you visit, the time and date of your visit, the time spent on those pages, unique device identifiers and other diagnostic data. TRACKING & COOKIES DATA We use cookies and similar tracking technologies to track the activity on our Service and we hold certain information. Cookies are files with a small amount of data which may include an anonymous unique identifier. Cookies are sent to your browser from a website and stored on your device. Other tracking technologies are also used such as beacons, tags and scripts to collect and track information and to improve and analyse our Service. You can instruct your browser to refuse all cookies or to indicate when a cookie is being sent. However, if you do not accept cookies, you may not be able to use some portions of our Service. Examples of Cookies we use: Session Cookies. We use Session Cookies to operate our Service. Preference Cookies. We use Preference Cookies to remember your preferences and various settings. Security Cookies. We use Security Cookies for security purposes. USE OF DATA Hair Restoration Laboratories, LLC uses the collected data for various purposes: To provide and maintain our Service To notify you about changes to our Service To allow you to participate in interactive features of our Service when you choose to do so To provide customer support To gather analysis or valuable information so that we can improve our Service To monitor the usage of our Service To detect, prevent and address technical issues To provide you with news, special offers and general information about other goods, services and events which we offer that are similar to those that you have already purchased or enquired about unless you have opted not to receive such information LEGAL BASIS FOR PROCESSING PERSONAL DATA UNDER THE GENERAL DATA PROTECTION REGULATION (GDPR) If you are from the European Economic Area (EEA), Hair Restoration Laboratories, LLC legal basis for collecting and using the personal information described in this Privacy Policy depends on the Personal Data we collect and the specific context in which we collect it. Hair Restoration Laboratories, LLC may process your Personal Data because: We need to perform a contract with you You have given us permission to do so The processing is in our legitimate interests and it is not overridden by your rights For payment processing purposes To comply with the law RETENTION OF DATA Hair Restoration Laboratories, LLC will retain your Personal Data only for as long as is necessary for the purposes set out in this Privacy Policy. We will retain and use your Personal Data to the extent necessary to comply with our legal obligations (for example, if we are required to retain your data to comply with applicable laws), resolve disputes and enforce our legal agreements and policies. Hair Restoration Laboratories, LLC will also retain Usage Data for internal analysis purposes. Usage Data is generally retained for a shorter period of time, except when this data is used to strengthen the security or to improve the functionality of our Service, or we are legally obligated to retain this data for longer periods. TRANSFER OF DATA Your information, including Personal Data, may be transferred to - and maintained on - computers located outside of your state, province, country or other governmental jurisdiction where the data protection laws may differ from those of your jurisdiction. If you are located outside United States and choose to provide information to us, please note that we transfer the data, including Personal Data, to United States and process it there. Your consent to this Privacy Policy followed by your submission of such information represents your agreement to that transfer. Hair Restoration Laboratories, LLC will take all the steps reasonably necessary to ensure that your data is treated securely and in accordance with this Privacy Policy and no transfer of your Personal Data will take place to an organisation or a country unless there are adequate controls in place including the security of your data and other personal information. DISCLOSURE OF DATA DISCLOSURE FOR LAW ENFORCEMENT Under certain circumstances, Hair Restoration Laboratories, LLC may be required to disclose your Personal Data if required to do so by law or in response to valid requests by public authorities (e.g. a court or a government agency). LEGAL REQUIREMENTS Hair Restoration Laboratories, LLC may disclose your Personal Data in the good faith belief that such action is necessary to: To comply with a legal obligation To protect and defend the rights or property of Hair Restoration Laboratories, LLC To prevent or investigate possible wrongdoing in connection with the Service To protect the personal safety of users of the Service or the public To protect against legal liability SECURITY OF DATA The security of your data is important to us but remember that no method of transmission over the Internet or method of electronic storage is 100% secure. While we strive to use commercially acceptable means to protect your Personal Data, we cannot guarantee its absolute security. OUR POLICY ON "DO NOT TRACK" SIGNALS UNDER THE CALIFORNIA ONLINE PROTECTION ACT (CALOPPA) We do not support Do Not Track ("DNT"). Do Not Track is a preference you can set in your web browser to inform websites that you do not want to be tracked. You can enable or disable Do Not Track by visiting the Preferences or Settings page of your web browser. YOUR DATA PROTECTION RIGHTS UNDER THE GENERAL DATA PROTECTION REGULATION (GDPR) If you are a resident of the European Economic Area (EEA), you have certain data protection rights. Hair Restoration Laboratories, LLC aims to take reasonable steps to allow you to correct, amend, delete or limit the use of your Personal Data. If you wish to be informed about what Personal Data we hold about you and if you want it to be removed from our systems, please contact us. In certain circumstances, you have the following data protection rights: The right to access, update or delete the information we have on you. Whenever made possible, you can access, update or request deletion of your Personal Data directly within your account settings section. If you are unable to perform these actions yourself, please contact us to assist you. The right of rectification. You have the right to have your information rectified if that information is inaccurate or incomplete. The right to object. You have the right to object to our processing of your Personal Data. The right of restriction. You have the right to request that we restrict the processing of your personal information. The right to data portability. You have the right to be provided with a copy of the information we have on you in a structured, machine-readable and commonly used format. The right to withdraw consent. You also have the right to withdraw your consent at any time where Hair Restoration Laboratories, LLC relied on your consent to process your personal information. Please note that we may ask you to verify your identity before responding to such requests. You have the right to complain to a Data Protection Authority about our collection and use of your Personal Data. For more information, please contact your local data protection authority in the European Economic Area (EEA). SERVICE PROVIDERS We may employ third party companies and individuals to facilitate our Service ("Service Providers"), provide the Service on our behalf, perform Service-related services or assist us in analysing how our Service is used. These third parties have access to your Personal Data only to perform these tasks on our behalf and are obligated not to disclose or use it for any other purpose. ANALYTICS We may use third-party Service Providers to monitor and analyse the use of our Service. Google Analytics Google Analytics is a web analytics service offered by Google that tracks and reports website traffic. Google uses the data collected to track and monitor the use of our Service. This data is shared with other Google services. Google may use the collected data to contextualise and personalise the ads of its own advertising network. You can opt-out of having made your activity on the Service available to Google Analytics by installing the Google Analytics opt-out browser add-on. The add-on prevents the Google Analytics JavaScript (ga.js, analytics.js and dc.js) from sharing information with Google Analytics about visits activity. For more information on the privacy practices of Google, please visit the Google Privacy & Terms web page: PAYMENTS We may provide paid products and/or services within the Service. In that case, we use third-party services for payment processing (e.g. payment processors). We will not store or collect your payment card details. That information is provided directly to our third-party payment processors whose use of your personal information is governed by their Privacy Policy. These payment processors adhere to the standards set by PCI-DSS as managed by the PCI Security Standards Council, which is a joint effort of brands like Visa, MasterCard, American Express and Discover. PCI-DSS requirements help ensure the secure handling of payment information. The payment processors we work with are: PayPal / Braintree Their Privacy Policy can be viewed at Their Privacy Policy can be viewed at LINKS TO OTHER SITES Our Service may contain links to other sites that are not operated by us. If you click a third party link, you will be directed to that third party's site. We strongly advise you to review the Privacy Policy of every site you visit. We have no control over and assume no responsibility for the content, privacy policies or practices of any third party sites or services. CHILDREN'S PRIVACY Our Service does not address anyone under the age of 18 ("Children"). We do not knowingly collect personally identifiable information from anyone under the age of 18. If you are a parent or guardian and you are aware that your Child has provided us with Personal Data, please contact us. If we become aware that we have collected Personal Data from children without verification of parental consent, we take steps to remove that information from our servers. CHANGES TO THIS PRIVACY POLICY We may update our Privacy Policy from time to time. We will notify you of any changes by posting the new Privacy Policy on this page. We will let you know via email and/or a prominent notice on our Service, prior to the change becoming effective and update the "effective date" at the top of this Privacy Policy. You are advised to review this Privacy Policy periodically for any changes. Changes to this Privacy Policy are effective when they are posted on this page. CONTACT US If you have any questions about this Privacy Policy, please contact us: By email: By phone number: 800-784-0386 By mail: 148 Route 73, Suite 3, #200, Voorhees, New Jersey 08043

Close (esc)

Product Wizard

Let us help recommend the best product for you.

Your age
Your gender
What are you suffering from?
What stage of the hair loss or thinning are you at?
What are you seeking to prevent?
Have you confirmed with a physician that your hair loss and/or thinning is cause by genetics?

Before commencing any treatment for hair loss and/or thinning, Hair Restoration Laboratories recommends that you consult with a physician.

Age verification

By clicking enter you are verifying that you are old enough to consume alcohol.

Shopping Cart

Your cart is currently empty.
Shop now